Have you felt like your love story started like that of Romeo and Juliet only to die down after settling together for a while? The phase is quite unexpected but happens to the best of them. Feelings do have a shorter shelf life although that doesn’t mean it’s the end of the road where marriage is concerned. The decision made in respect to this may chart the course of a relationship to either build up or let go of each other all together. The latter is more often approached wrongly as people are wrongly convinced that they’ve lost love for each other not knowing it was just the beginning of a beautiful friendship. If you are a believer of fighting for your love counselling is one way of doing that and you never know what surprises may be awaiting you.
The aim of couple counselling is to enhance the couples connection. An opportunity to tell the love story as it were before is offered to the couple. This elates the couple since they get to remember days where their love mattered. They are then ushered to a new phase that involves being honest about how their love spiraled into what it is at present. This gives a basis on how to structure the counselling and what areas to pay attention to, more like personalizing the counselling to suit the respective couple. There is the part of identifying the endgame of what they would like their marriage to be and with that information on the table, the therapist has all the tools they need to facilitate the healing process.
Conflict resolution procedures form the next point of address. Problems are magnified where lack of equally problematic ways are used to go about them. Pointing fingers has never once been a solution and are better off replaced with more effective solutions. What counselling does is that it seeks out alternative routes for couples to solve their issues. Tolerance, forgiveness and trust are built this way. While it might be hard to go past issues like affairs among many others one-ness, intimacy, respect and trust can be with time re-established with better conflict approaches.
Hard as it may be to accept not all relationships are built to last . It becomes very difficult for them as a couple to mend fences as a unit. This necessitates the need for them to actually part ways. Still even in this circumstances counselling is of utmost importance. It helps in the process of letting go of past wounds and allowing for forgiveness. This helps in amicable parting and gives them a new lease in life as each starts on a clean slate.